TV: The Bachelor Finale

I can't believe I'm actually going to blog about this, but I have to; every fiber in my being is yelling, "Oh my god!"

Tonight was the season finale of "The Bachelor" - I would have completely forgotten about it if Alia hadn't sent me a text (we've become addicted to bad TV: "The Bad Girls Club", "True Beauty", "Tool Academy"...yeah, it's pretty bad) - and as I sat on my floor covered by over 100 flash cards, I switched back and forth from my true TV loves, "The Big Bang Theory" and "How I Met Your Mother", to this crazy ending of a reality show relationship. This fool went on the show to find a wife, he finds her, proposes, then decides they aren't meant for each other. WTF?!

And though I am shocked - a rare occurrence these days - my shock is confusing and I can't determine in which direction to head:

Should we be upset with the boy for following his heart and consequently ending things with his "fiance" to attempt a relationship with the girl he "couldn't stop thinking about"?

Or should we applaud him for it?

So many people don't listen to their feelings, stay in relationships out of duty (a whole other post) and end up never achieving the happiness they are capable of because they "didn't want to hurt someone".

But what about the ladies?
The fiance was visually upset, and rightfully so, calling him "a liar". What struck a chord with me was when she scolded him for taking a beautiful once in a lifetime moment away from her: the marriage proposal. And, I for one, agree with her. He obviously may not have meant to do that, but he did and he can't give it back.

Then there's the other one who lived the dream of the heartbroken whose feelings never go away: he told her he made a mistake by not choosing her and asked for another chance.

I guess even if both ladies did get played on national television - how does one recover from that? - it's better to put yourself out there in hopes of an honest return of emotions.

And, though this "bachelor" went from being loved to loathed by millions of women (maybe men, too) in a matter of moments, we still have to appreciate his honesty by deciding to drop a woman he likes to chase the woman he loves because he understood that in letting her go, he would always hold on to the "what if's?"

I know I do.

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